Especially the first one! I have a really hard time knowing if somebody actually wants me to do something unless they are specific about the task and direct it towards me completely.
This is some adhd/autism solidarity Mood™️
Same same. My old housemate used to get annoyed when I didn’t help out with cleaning the house.. but I just never realized when the kitchen needed to be cleaned! And when I asked him to tell me when, he said I should learn how to.
Now my new housemate (and friend of a decade) knows I am like that and when he is cleaning, asks me to do something (he vacuums, and asks me to clean the bathroom) and I just do it. Cause I don’t mind being asked nor do I mind doing my part with the cleaning.
We don’t work with the same social conventions that NT people do. We’re not forgetting things cause we don’t care. I wish people would understand that.